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    The very first time I was sexually harassed was when I was ten years old, I'd just entered into JSS 1 then. We lived in a compound with a vast land and I adored the house. I had a habit of bathing in the yard and I preferred this to bathing in the bathroom. I guess it was the "airy feeling" I got from bathing outside.      Now, if you have met me (or at least seen my pictures clearly) you'd know I'm what you call "packing at the front" lol. My breasts were already growing but I was too innocent to really take notice. I remember how my mom would scream down the earth whenever she saw me (I always did this when I felt she wasn't looking). Naturally, I felt secure and safe doing this because I thought no one was even looking at me, I mean I was only Ten for pete's sake! Apparently I was very wrong with a capital "W".      We had a neighbor who had just moved in. He was Igbo and naturally, my mom and dad got close to him. We found

     We all think Boko Haram is a terrorist group but that's only one way to look at it. One man's meat is another man's poison or better still let me say, one man's terrorist is another man's freedom fighter. I have no reason to support Boko Haram but let's analyze, shall we?     I don't know exactly when Boko Haram started their operations because frankly I'm not a big fan of them and their operations. I hate violence but then I believe that if it should be used as a means to achieving anything at all, it should be the last resort.      What I know about terrorists is that they want their voices to be heard and how can it be heard? It's through the public stunts they pull which include bombing of random places, kidnapping random children and all sorts. They're more direct sometimes in their approach by for instance, kidnapping one of the relatives of a prominent individual in the society say a politician just to make sure whoever they&

Life after death....hmmmm      I know we've all heard or read stories about people who lived after they died.      I'm not talking about reincarnation this time, I'm talking about people who were confirmed dead but were still recognised elsewhere alive, hale and hearty.      Okay, there was this lady who resided close to my house diagnosed with tuberculosis or something related because she was drying up real bad, might have been Hiv too (just saying), she usually patronised my shop where soft drinks and snacks were sold. She usually bought only pepsi or 7up, as the spirit led her I guess.      I was very young then and observant too as always so one day she came as usual, bought 7up and left. Not long after she left, I heard that she had died the previous day.      I wondered how someone could be dead and still buy her usual the next day, I thought it was a strange thing so I never told anyone.      As if that wasn't bizarre enough, a friend of my mom died and vis

You think it's okay to not pay attention to little things? You think it's okay to be insensitive enough to let her cry on someone else's shoulder? You think it's okay to allow him confide in his other female friend? You think it's okay to ignore the one who's giving you attention for the one who's not? You think it's okay to put yourself first all the time? You think it's okay to think about benefits all the time? You think it's okay to be mean to people that are nothing but nice to you? You think it's okay to have a lackadaisical attitude towards important things? You think it's okay to not appreciate favors no matter how little? You think it's okay to compare yourself to others when your story is obviously different? You think it's okay to not make sacrifices when necessary? You think it's okay to lose hope while you're still breathing? You think it's okay to not take God seriously? You think it's

     Having gone through the four temperaments, I'm sure you must have found where you belong. It's however very possible to have a combination of two or more temperaments but there'll be a dominant one. You can be a strong melancholic and a light phlegmatic, strong sanguine and a light choleric, and so on. For instance, you can be a phlegmel, melsan, sanchol, cholmel, etc.      I hope we've learnt from this and not only found out our temperaments but also that of our friends and families. I hope it helps us in building relationships and know how to deal with people better than we are right now. Merci beaucoup. Facebook - Odusola Aanuoluwapo Twitter - @odusolar BBM - 2ACA8612

     My name is Phlegmatic. I'm a submissive introvert who lives to please others. I never think or act like I'm I'm better than others. I love peace so I try to avoid conflicts at all costs. I am well behaved and strictly adhere to laid down rules and regulation. I put others first and I can sacrifice my happiness for that of others. I find it difficult to say no and end up doing things I don't like just to make others happy.      I am very empathetic, trustworthy too. I blame myself even for others' mistakes just to make others feel better. I'm more supportive than critical and I seldom use offensive words. I like others making decisions for me because I'm very indecisive. I'm a natural follower and I'm good at it as I do not see myself leading. I'd rather do nothing than do the wrong thing. My pain is easily changed by others. I am introverted and enjoy time alone, I don't judge others and also do not strive for perfection.     I en

     My name is Melancholic. I'm a perfectionist and emotionally sensitive. I like my things being in a particular pattern and hate when it doesn't follow the pattern. I hold myself and others in extremely high standards and I hate when my standards are not met. I'm always willing to learn and understand, I'm keen on knowing every little detail about anything because for me, to be ignorant is to stray from perfection. I'm very inquisitive and I ask specific questions to gain more understanding which sometimes leads to over analytical worries. I am very stubborn because I try hard to stick to my own carefully considered views and standards of perfection and I'm not easily shifted from this path. I do not go with the flow.      I am very pessimistic, and assume the worst due to my sometimes unrealistic standards. I think and plan before taking any action and I never resort to rash behaviours if I can't plan properly. It's easier for me to hate and rejec

     My name is Choleric. I am hot-blooded and domineering. I speak in command tones to get things done. I love being dominant either by being better or being calm hence superior to those who lose their cool. I love standing up for people who are being bullied. I'm a natural leader because I'm very confident though this doesn't mean I enjoy leading, I'd just rather take charge of situations instead of worrying about them.     I believe it is important to prove myself all the time so I frequently challenge others aggressively in order to show my respect for their strength. I have the tendency to argue over anything and everything because of my ego. I wouldn't mind lying in order to maintain a dominant position. I don't like to be messed with, if you mess with me, you'll end up regretting knowing me. I love competition but I hate to lose.      I take pleasure in the misfortune of people I'm not on good terms with (don't know why). I blame others

     My name is Sanguine. I am an extrovert. I love anything that is fun related, it's never a dull moment with me around. I love to talk everywhere I am, even if there's no discussion, I bring up one because I love talking. Most times, I'm more of a talker than a listener, I'm trying to work on it though. I'm very emotional and openly too, I bare my mind however and wherever I deem fit but I end up saying hurtful words and would have to apologise later.      I'm highly optimistic and I also help goad others on in whatever they want to do (positively though). I'm an attention seeker too, I'm the kind of person that'll go late to a place just to be noticed, yea, that's how much I love attention. I love compliments, I would do anything to be complimented just as I'll do anything to be entertained (I hate being bored). I care a lot about how I look though I have the tendency to be vain, I just have to look good.      I hate being left out

          Everything we do is as a result of our temperament. Temperament is a configuration of observable personality traits, such as habits of communication, patterns of action and sets of characteristic attitudes, values, and talents. It also encompasses personal needs, the kinds of contributions that individuals make in the workplace and the roles they play in the society.           Knowing your temperament goes a long way in your life as it allows you understand people based on who they are and not who you are. You might have at some point in your life looked at someone and wondered why he or she is the way he/she is. It's because of his or her temperament. If we all know each other's temperament, I believe there would be  less conflict.           There are four major temperaments namely; sanguine, melancholic, choleric and phlegmatic. These temperament types would be discussed one after the other in subsequent posts and I'm imploring you to not miss out on an

My name is Mirabel Blakewood, I'm 20 years old. My parents died when I was 6 in a car accident on the 25th of July, 2001 and I've been living with Maternal Grandmother until she also passed away when I was 15. I still stay at my Grandmother's till date. I'm quite tall, I have brown eyes just like my Dad's. I remember it when he used to read me bedtime stories, I would stare deep into his eyes till I fell asleep. I keep a small circle of friends - Jeff, Sarah, Lionel and Amy. We've been friends since we were kids. They've been my family too. My Grandmother was a very quiet woman, she was a woman of noble mien. She had no friends and she barely spoke to anyone. She would say hello to few people after the service on Sunday then be back to her normal withdrawn self. There was something my Grandma passed on to me, it's called the Peth spirit. It was passed on to her by her mother when she was dying but my Mum didn't live long enough for it to b

Why would someone cheat on their partner? Cheating in a relationship has a lot of causes ranging from money, religion, dissatisfaction, mistrust, to trying to play smart or not wanting to put all ones eggs in one basket among others. I won't say it's fair to cheat in a relationship but yea, it's better to cheat in a relationship than in a marriage. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Cheating in a relationship isn't a big deal these days but why would you cheat in your marriage? Why would you finally find "the one" and still want "another one"? I don't get it. Covetousness? Covetousness you say? Why didn't you sample enough people before settling down with one you won't still be contented with or isn't that the essence of dating? Okay he changed, she changed, so??? Is that why they should be replaced? What happened to working it out? Ohhhh now I get it, you think your alternative out there would give y

No song on my playlist could describe how I'm feeling right now. Maybe "sad" by Maroon 5 though not in the same context but you get the point. I'm asking myself why bad things happen to good people, I've been asking for years though and no one seems to have the answer. Is it about Kehinde Olowoidiaba's death? He was a nice kid, he didn't deserve to die but who does anyway. He was one of the happy people I knew, I never saw him frown. I was in SS1 at the time, SS1 Platinum but he was in gold. He usually came to my class, called every girl his wife. He was very jovial, it was never a dull moment around him. But then, he had to die. Aunty Latifat was my Aunt's friend, she was very sweet to I and my brother whenever we went to visit her or followed my aunt to her house then one day, she had to die. Hers was the first loss that personally affected me, it was hard for me to accept that I was never going to see her again. When I heard about her death,

I'm sure we all know what addiction means or at least must have heard about it or read about it or maybe, maybe we are addicted to something or someone. I think we are all addicts, I mean, there is something you always want to do or someone you always want to be with. Think about it, it won't take you long before your addiction becomes clear to you. Personally I'm addicted to music, I just love music and I crave it all the time. You can hardly see me without my headphones, I don't care if my battery is running out though it doesn't because I do everything possible to keep the music playing. Some people are addicted to drugs, social media, fashion, art, nature, research, adventure, the list is endless. They crave for it all the time probably because it completes them or because they think it does. Yes, we are addicted to whatever because we feel we are incomplete without it but it shouldn't stop there. I'm not judging but I think some of us are add

We've all had,presently have and will definitely still have crushes I still remember my first crush vividly I was in primary three at the time He walked into my class with his very elder brother as he was coming to the class for the first time as a new student. I couldn't take my eyes off him, he was the finest boy I had ever seen at the time. He was dark, tall, very cute, his hairstyle was errrr, I think it's the one they call punk, he wore a blue jean and a long-sleeved striped shirt with a canvas to match. My class teacher, Mrs Awe then told him to sit beside me. It was almost unbelievable, a whole me with this boy I couldn't take my eyes off, he was very charming. As time went on, we grew very close. We did almost everything together except eating, everyone in class began to call us "my only, my only", I'm still laughing now as I'm reminiscing, it was a sweet experience until one day he just disappeared. I was worried but there was little

I knew I was growing up when I began to listen the lyrics not just the sounds. When I decided to choose quality over quantity. When for me, it wasn't about what he drives but what drives him. When it wasn't about how long I've known someone but how well I knew them. When I stopped caring about losing friends if I lose them for standing for what I believe in. When I stopped thinking about what I can get but what I can give. When I stopped expecting people to like me because I don't like everyone too. When I began to do things for me not for everyone. When I began to get involved in the things of God. When I began to wish Nigeria well. When I began to appreciate the little things I had because no matter how little I thought I had, I still had more than someone. When I began to accept things I couldn't control. I knew I was growing up when I decided to write this instead of just thinking it. Facebook - Odusola Aanuoluwapo Twitter - @odusolar