Odusolar's Think Tank Hub

There are very few posts that I sleep and wake up with and this is one of them. I still do not have the right words to use but I’m still in shock. I know there are crazy people who like experimenting on a lot of things but I thought there was always a limit to everything we can do. I’ve watched movies where people tie each other to bed and even blindfold them while they have sex with them and they call it fun. No I’m not judging and I don’t intend to but personally, any form of fun that involves pain of any sort isn’t my thing. Never has, never will. As much as you can practice any sex style of your choice, you should not inflict pain on others in the process. Nobody cares if a couple beats themselves till they start bleeding in the name of sex as long as it’s consensual but beating your kids to get aroused is the height, the height no sane person should ever get to. I don’t even know what to say again because I’m so vexed right now, I wish I could take those kids from them but I don’t

You're probably reading this and wondering "how am I the Boss when I still had to come to this annoying workplace (depends on how you refer to your workplace if you have a job)?" If you were truly the boss, you should be on vacation somewhere around the world you won't even have to consider your bank account balance to get to, if you were truly the boss, you should not be reporting to any boss; if you were truly the boss, then you shouldn't be hustling the way you are; if you were the boss, you shouldn't be in school studying; if you were the boss, you shouldn't be unable to afford furthering your education; if you were the boss, you shouldn't be struggling with eating thrice a day talk less of having money in your bank account...the list is endless. Ironically, the real bosses aren't always the ones who wear suits, sit on executive chairs, CEOs or everyone else who has the "Boss" title attached to them. We are all bosses, we just don&#

This post wasn't written by me or anyone I know and I had to make this clear to avoid committing the crime of plagiarism. I came across it on a group chat I belong to and it spoke words that I've not been able to pen down and I thought why not? It's a long post so please kindly be patient and try not to miss out on any line. It begins: This is one of the best write ups I have read in recent years. Be patient enough to read it to the end. I am sure you would quite agree with me that it's the truth Everyday, especially with the rise of social media, the menfolk are bashed and branded “evil”. We often make generalisations about the whole “specie” based on isolated experiences. Recently, a Nollywood actress wrote that “all men cheat”. My intention is not to write a rejoinder to the referenced article, neither is it an attempt to repudiate the assertion. However, in my moment of solitude, I asked if truly something is wrong with us as men. Before making my case, plea

The society we are in is not one that is in total support of a female making the first move towards a male she admires or wants a relationship with. Some of us (females) have been made to believe that it's the duty of a guy to take the first step towards building a relationship with us. Some females believe telling a guy how they feel about him is below standard, like stooping low. A female should keep her head up and withhold whatever emotions she has for the opposite sex no matter what. If he realises he feels the same way, fine, if otherwise, fine still. Somehow, a lot of us have broken that rule. It used to sound strange to me many years ago when females say they've made the first move at least once. I later realised that there's no wrong in it (in my own opinion though), it depends on how you go about it. You don't have to want to 'date' the person, just say how you feel and watch. Surprisingly, some guys appreciate it when you tell them how you feel abou

This is another instagram-inspired post that I felt the strong urge to write about. It’s very complicated according to the responses I’ve gotten from people I spoke about it to. What happened was; a guy complained about another guy getting his girlfriend a car for her birthday saying that she claimed her relationship with the ‘gifter’ were without strings but he was of the opinion that she couldn’t have done anything without strings that would warrant a car gift. Yes, some people do not believe someone can just give out ‘big things’ without you doing something substantial like giving them one of your kidneys, lol. I understand though, a lot of guys do not appreciate random guys doing things for their girlfriends especially something they cannot afford to do for her. When other guys do stuffs for their girlfriends, they feel be-littled and disrespected. So when this guy posted it, I read the advise of people and of course people took sides. In support of the guy, they advised the gu

Public display of affection which I'm going to refer to as PDA throughout this write up are acts of physical intimacy in the view of others according to wikipedia. Acts such as kissing, holding hands, hugs, amongst others (it could be worse .e.g. heavy petting). People practice PDA for a lot of reasons ranging from making other people jealous of their love life to showing off to mention a few. In my own experience (not directly though), most people who engage in them are usually not as happy as the ones who do not. Ironically, people mistaken public display of affection for true love and sometimes even wish to have that kind of thing going for them without considering how it could be for the couple behind closed doors. This is why I personally do not believe a relationship is based on true love just because I see a couple acting all lovey-dovey in public. Yes, they could even act porn together, doesn't make a difference if they're not still "in love". Some peopl

Long or short, how do you like it? The answer to that question largely depends on our preferences. Personally, I like it short but not too short. Now, you're probably wondering what I'm talking about, I'm talking about relationships. Like people say, it's not how far but how well. As much as I subscribe to that statement, I don't believe it should be too far. It surprises me when I listen to interviews of couples and they reveal that they dated their spouse for 8years, 10years, even 11years. I'm like dfghjhgfdsdi? Why? Two to three years isn't enough to decide if oomf was "the one"? It is understandable though if they started dating in secondary school but as an adult, biko what are we doing? The ones that even end up with that person they dated for "forever" is even better, how about those ones who do not get married eventually? I know a broken relationship/engagement is better than a broken marriage but if we're going to break it

Distractions are distractions when you let them be distractions. I’ve been meaning to write about this for a long time but I’ve been busy with other things, not that I’ve been distracted by other things. I felt this should be written about when I found myself in the midst of other young people discussing the subject. A lot of people talked about mobile phones being a distraction, social networks been a distraction, girls/boys being a distraction hence restraining people from doing valuable things with their time. So I was wondering, does it mean we should stop using smartphones? Internet? Or stop talking to members of the opposite sex to avoid being distracted? Errrrrrrrr I think not. These things we refer to as distractions can turn the world around when harnessed positively. We need people in our lives because like they say, no man is an island and no one has truly achieved anything good or bad without having the support of others hence our relationship with other people should add

Usually, when you ask people if they have any regrets, most people diplomatically reply by saying they don’t have regrets, rather they learn from every situation no matter how terrible it was but then, haven’t you ever looked back at some decisions you made and felt you should have done better? I know we’ve moved on but then, a reflection of these things won’t be a bad idea once in a while so we can know where we erred and how well we’ve improved over the years. Today, we won’t be talking about random mistakes, we would talk about things we consider regrets in our past relationships. I don’t want to believe there’s anyone here who hasn’t been in some sort of relationship at some point in their lives though not everyone might have had an entirely bad experience but there must have been something, you get the point yeah? I read about this online so it hit me as I also have my own share of ‘I wish I didn’t or I wish I did’ experiences. So let’s look back at our previous partners, what d