P-Pressure Or Something Like That

Peer pressure is a very funny concept abi funny kind of pressure. This is because you don’t have to be forced into doing anything; it starts in your head. You might be constantly teased about not having something someone else has and it starts to register in your mind/head (choose one) that you’re not up to the standard you should be. Who sets the standard really so why bother?

It can also come in form of people around you having something you don’t which you probably admire but have no means of getting – yet. Rather than wait for your time, you feel you should join the clique so you hustle anyhow you can to get it. Funny thing is, those who own it might have been allowing you access to theirs (I don’t mean babe here, nobody wants you to share their babe) to the extent that you won’t feel the need to get yours but you just can’t (kent) keep calm.

Peer pressure isn’t always negative as it usually is made to sound. Peer pressure can inspire you to do amazing stuff with your life as well. Imagine having friends, who are very ambitious, it will rub off on you somehow. Even if you’re very phlegmatic about achievements, they will push you to do something. You might even feel pressure to step up to their level so this will make you up your game.

In the end, it is all about what you do with your time, who you spend time with bla bla. If evil communications can corrupt good manners, imagine what good communication could do to your manners/ life?

Tips On Reducing/Eliminating The Pressure

- - Watch your association, if it doesn’t inspire you to do better mentally, spiritually and financially, I don’t know why you’re there in the first place.

- - Feed your mind with good stuffs.

- - Don’t feel intimidated (I know it’s not easy) by what people own, you don’t know what they went through to get it.

- - Be contented with who you are. Strive to be better in positive and productive ways only.

- - Remember that you can’t be who you want to be ‘sharply’. There are processes, stages you must pass through. Pass through them in peace without jumping fence.

- - Go on social media to have fun not to constantly remind yourself of how far you are from achieving your goals.

- - Be yourself. Nobody matters more than you so who would you rather be except you?

- - Dare to be different. How about doing what no one else is doing rather than doing what everyone is doing?

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