I get to be asked about how marriage has been a lot by some of my unmarried friends. I’ve not even been married for long enough to be qualified to answer that question. From my little experience, marriage, like any other phase in life isn’t all smooth. It has its ups and downs.
There’s an extra respect you get as soon as you get married. I get to be called MA a lot by people who wouldn’t ordinarily call me that and I’m wondering why. I guess it’s just the way the society has made it.
Oh and I lost some friends as soon as I got the MRS title. Some people don’t care about how serious your relationship is, they’d still be on your ‘case’ but as soon as you say “I do”, they’d forget you like you never existed. This was good and bad for me because I considered some to be great friends but then, I guess I was wrong.
Then there’s the pressure to get pregnant, I got lucky to get pregnant earlier than I thought though I wasn’t even ready. But before my body began announcing it, I still got a bit of pressure from a lot of people. What if I didn’t want kids yet? Or even at all? Most Nigerians won’t have it.
The kind of patience and tolerance you need to have in a marriage cannot be quantified. Nothing can prepare you for it until you get into the marriage itself. I’m sure my husband will say the same. Lol. It just has to be mutual. Both parties should be patient and tolerate each other.
I used to be terrible at sharing space though I hide it a lot. I get cranky when I have someone in my space constantly but I’ve learned to adjust to it. That’s where compromise comes in. I realized I can’t always have things my way if I have to stay married.
Marriage has its challenges and benefits. You can have sex whenever as long as your partner is up to it of course. You get to pray and play together. Watch movies together. Spend a lot of quality time you barely have to plan towards.
Well, this is my answer. How has your experience been like? (if you’re married) and if you’re not, how would you like your experience to be?
Twitter >> @odusolar
Gmail >> odusolar@gmail.com
There’s an extra respect you get as soon as you get married. I get to be called MA a lot by people who wouldn’t ordinarily call me that and I’m wondering why. I guess it’s just the way the society has made it.
Oh and I lost some friends as soon as I got the MRS title. Some people don’t care about how serious your relationship is, they’d still be on your ‘case’ but as soon as you say “I do”, they’d forget you like you never existed. This was good and bad for me because I considered some to be great friends but then, I guess I was wrong.
Then there’s the pressure to get pregnant, I got lucky to get pregnant earlier than I thought though I wasn’t even ready. But before my body began announcing it, I still got a bit of pressure from a lot of people. What if I didn’t want kids yet? Or even at all? Most Nigerians won’t have it.
The kind of patience and tolerance you need to have in a marriage cannot be quantified. Nothing can prepare you for it until you get into the marriage itself. I’m sure my husband will say the same. Lol. It just has to be mutual. Both parties should be patient and tolerate each other.
I used to be terrible at sharing space though I hide it a lot. I get cranky when I have someone in my space constantly but I’ve learned to adjust to it. That’s where compromise comes in. I realized I can’t always have things my way if I have to stay married.
Marriage has its challenges and benefits. You can have sex whenever as long as your partner is up to it of course. You get to pray and play together. Watch movies together. Spend a lot of quality time you barely have to plan towards.
Well, this is my answer. How has your experience been like? (if you’re married) and if you’re not, how would you like your experience to be?
Twitter >> @odusolar
Gmail >> odusolar@gmail.com
Comments
It's really good to hear your story.
‘ u can’t have things done your way all d time if u want to stay married’
Bless u!
To many more years😘
Beautiful😍
Great to see you write again b.
Thanks for sharing it
Nice write up