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Temperament: I am Melancholic

     My name is Melancholic. I'm a perfectionist and emotionally sensitive. I like my things being in a particular pattern and hate when it doesn't follow the pattern. I hold myself and others in extremely high standards and I hate when my standards are not met. I'm always willing to learn and understand, I'm keen on knowing every little detail about anything because for me, to be ignorant is to stray from perfection. I'm very inquisitive and I ask specific questions to gain more understanding which sometimes leads to over analytical worries. I am very stubborn because I try hard to stick to my own carefully considered views and standards of perfection and I'm not easily shifted from this path. I do not go with the flow.  
   I am very pessimistic, and assume the worst due to my sometimes unrealistic standards. I think and plan before taking any action and I never resort to rash behaviours if I can't plan properly. It's easier for me to hate and reject things rather than to love and accept them. My interests are picked carefully and I hold them closely rather than have a lot that'll change quickly and often. I complain a lot but not in a put-down or demanding way. I tend to argue a lot analytically because I can't let things be if they seem wrong although using logic and explanations. The arguments are usually about the issue not me. I respond poorly to compliments and blame myself for mistakes as I'm clearly aware of my imperfections. I like things being tidy though not necessarily neat. I crave time alone and I love my own company.
     I enjoy spending time with others but it drains my energy most times and I'd have to spend time alone to get it back. People who don't meet my standards and outlook make me uncomfortable. I'm not all about talking to anyone and everyone. Once I have someone to talk to in a quiet and relaxed atmosphere, I can talk a lot and enjoy sharing thoughts and ideas. It takes me time to consider people I'm familiar with friends but once it gets to that point, I'm likely to stick to the person. I prefer having a few close friends to many acquaintances. I can be seen as selfish though because I prefer to be alone with my own thoughts, have my own things, rather than sharing them with others. I'm very possessive about things I own and very reluctant to let others borrow or use them because I believe they won't give it as much care as I would as I care about everything deeply.
     I'm more intense rather than easy going. I'm very emotional, I'm moved deeply by beauty and distress. I'm slow to snap but I hold on to emotions for a very long time and also easily hurt. I can become very moody at times, I'm not aggressive and I love fleeing from things that make me uneasy. I'm more likely to make people feel guilty rather than insult them just to get back at them. I'm all of this because I am MELANCHOLIC.


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