I was involved in a discussion with some of my colleagues sometime last week and we were talking about marriage, it was an interesting one though. Amidst the jokes and all, I got some things to take home with me and I want to share my thoughts. I'm 22 and I already get questions like "when are you getting married because there's no time", "don't think you're too young", but I'm like ahn ahn, what do I have yet? and that's not my only reason.
What's the point of going into something because it is expected of you? Make the right choice because at the end of the day, it's just you, you and you. It's you who would face the music. Personally, I believe a woman should try to achieve as much as a man tries to achieve before marriage.i.e. If a man wants to have 10million naira in his account before marriage, why shouldn't a woman also strive to have 10million naira equally or at least ten percent which is 1million? This is not to mean that you can't get married without having money or property of your , my point is, work hard for yourself.
A woman should be able to contribute something in the home no matter how little, the man shouldn't do everything for you, what happened to the strong and independent women out there? I'm a woman and I strongly believe that a woman's place is NOT in the kitchen.Why would your place be in the kitchen? Or the bedroom? Is that why you were created? Where is the place of a man in the house? He's the breadwinner shey? That's why you would stay home and be letting your husband feed you while you just watch DSTV? Even those ones who don't sit home just remain idle or let's call it chilling since boo boo has enough money to spend and he doesn't even want his babe to stress herself so she decides not to stress herself.
People are different hence I'm not here to judge anyone based on my own standard or any standard at all so I'd just say how I feel and I stand to be corrected. I believe in a man being the head of the house just as the Bible says but this Bible also told us that women were created to be helpmates. I've not yet heard or read about where it was written or said that women are created to help men spend the money they work hard for. This is not to say that women shouldn't be lavished on but what do you have to offer him asides your body and of course your cooking skills.
A relationship should be symbiotic not parasitic, bring something to the table too. You don't have to spend it on him because you don't want to be a parasite but at least have something of your own. Some women suffer a lot after their wealthy husband's demise especially when his family takes everything he has because they failed to have something of their own while he was alive. They were chilling, spending his money forgetting that anything can happen at anytime. Even if you don't think anything can happen, there's a kind of joy you would derive from owning your stuff. It doesn't have to be much but have something, you don't have to ask a man for every penny.
Develop yourself at every opportunity you get because self-development is very important. How ready are you for this big step called marriage? How ready am I? I know time is not on your side but I don't think that's enough reason to settle for less because one day, not long after, you would be wishing you never settled in the first place. No one is perfect so looking for mr perfect should be out of the question and it's best to stick with the one who has weaknesses you can deal with for the rest of your life. If you can get that, then you've found "the one".
In conclusion, try as much as possible to achieve something without the help of a man and also develop yourself regularly in every aspect of your life. Make yourself happy from within because no one is responsible for your happiness except you and lastly, don't be a parasite.
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What's the point of going into something because it is expected of you? Make the right choice because at the end of the day, it's just you, you and you. It's you who would face the music. Personally, I believe a woman should try to achieve as much as a man tries to achieve before marriage.i.e. If a man wants to have 10million naira in his account before marriage, why shouldn't a woman also strive to have 10million naira equally or at least ten percent which is 1million? This is not to mean that you can't get married without having money or property of your , my point is, work hard for yourself.
A woman should be able to contribute something in the home no matter how little, the man shouldn't do everything for you, what happened to the strong and independent women out there? I'm a woman and I strongly believe that a woman's place is NOT in the kitchen.Why would your place be in the kitchen? Or the bedroom? Is that why you were created? Where is the place of a man in the house? He's the breadwinner shey? That's why you would stay home and be letting your husband feed you while you just watch DSTV? Even those ones who don't sit home just remain idle or let's call it chilling since boo boo has enough money to spend and he doesn't even want his babe to stress herself so she decides not to stress herself.
People are different hence I'm not here to judge anyone based on my own standard or any standard at all so I'd just say how I feel and I stand to be corrected. I believe in a man being the head of the house just as the Bible says but this Bible also told us that women were created to be helpmates. I've not yet heard or read about where it was written or said that women are created to help men spend the money they work hard for. This is not to say that women shouldn't be lavished on but what do you have to offer him asides your body and of course your cooking skills.
A relationship should be symbiotic not parasitic, bring something to the table too. You don't have to spend it on him because you don't want to be a parasite but at least have something of your own. Some women suffer a lot after their wealthy husband's demise especially when his family takes everything he has because they failed to have something of their own while he was alive. They were chilling, spending his money forgetting that anything can happen at anytime. Even if you don't think anything can happen, there's a kind of joy you would derive from owning your stuff. It doesn't have to be much but have something, you don't have to ask a man for every penny.
Develop yourself at every opportunity you get because self-development is very important. How ready are you for this big step called marriage? How ready am I? I know time is not on your side but I don't think that's enough reason to settle for less because one day, not long after, you would be wishing you never settled in the first place. No one is perfect so looking for mr perfect should be out of the question and it's best to stick with the one who has weaknesses you can deal with for the rest of your life. If you can get that, then you've found "the one".
Facebook - Odusola Aanuoluwapo
Twitter - @odusolar
BBM - 2ACA8612
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