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Lies........A Necessity? by Celestine Atufu

So its not been easy writing anything down since after the first draft, I won't say I've not been bored but the afternoons have been hot, not the best conditions for thinking. I mostly spend my nights doing fun stuff so I've not been able to find the time to write while also waiting for an inspiration from somewhere. Talking about fun stuff I meant watching movies and surfing the internet, I'm a party person though but the past few months has not been favourable. What I'm trying to do now is connect what I'm gonna write about, its really not easy and some would be wondering how I got the chance to put this down? Well the day was hot as usual and I've run out of movies plus my connection is slow tonight so here I am back to being a writer, you see I wasn’t lying after all I hope writing would accept me back I'm not a deserter, just took some time off you know? It actually wants to rain now so I guess tomorrow won't be so hot after all. Its not a lie its actually happening now the thunders and lightening that’s how I know, when you get to read this doesn’t have to reflect the exact time it was written so what I'm saying is actually happening now.
Speaking of lying I remember back in my Jss1, it was time for sports and I was walking past the field and some seniors called me to come keep for them since they were playing football, I obliged I could be a keeper, they scored us eventually and an argument started about whether it was a goal or not. They eventually decided to ask me I waited for the question and when it was time to answer I said yeah it was a goal, one of my team mate went (he was more my senior though) must you tell the truth? I obviously didn’t reply him but as we left the field for the next set to play it got me thinking if it was worth lying over, I mean that result was as a showing of ourselves why not give the opposition the credit they deserve? Don’t you want to give yourself the opportunity to go again? Its sports, why lie about it? besides there was no prize attached, why can't you just respect their challenge on that day. If you prepared to partake then you should be ready for all possible outcomes. If you don’t lose then where does the bounce back come from? How do you test yourself? Win some lose some right?

I'm not trying to say I don’t lie, I do, I'm human, we all do, as a matter of fact I'm good at it, we're all good at it you know, it doesn’t have to be written or words said, lies goes as far as expressions, putting on those fake smiles saying we're okay when we're not, have you noticed how people don’t have pictures where they look down a bit? Its always smiles and partying, people take several pictures later deleting the ones they don’t appear very good looking in forgetting they don’t have to be perfect always. Sometimes we just lie for no reason or doing it because of respect for the other person's feelings, Isn't the latter meant to be so sweet? But then again it doesn’t make it right and what's up with people faking orgasm? Human beings are so impossible, such silly things we find comfortable to lie about and I keep asking "what is the need?" Not talking about Orezi's jam though. They say the truth is bitter, old folks are more accustomed to bitter stuffs I guess that’s why we find it harder lying to them because they don’t accept it they don’t want sweet they want bitter, they always find out, they can handle bitter. But the younger ones love sweet so they get the lies mostly it all makes sense right?
I'm not trying to size it up right now but I think the worst liars are the politicians, they come in front of the media and lie to a whole nation, the full nation, can you imagine that? How do they even sleep at night? I mean I understand you just have to close your eyes and wait for the sleep to come and all that, and those who find it harder result to prescription drugs but I'm talking about their conscience here now how do they balance the guilt? Do they have a conscience at all? How does it let them sleep at night? Perhaps they're twisted, I wont say they don’t have a conscience, but perhaps they needed a pair. Let's just forget about that so it doesn’t get long and boring because we could go all day, after all this post was never meant to be personal so no need to dwell on some certain individual shortcomings, let us just try to have empathy because as they say that’s the only thing that separates us from the beast. They’re also human like us, so there you go as I said I wasn’t trying to size it up.
So at the end of the day we are meant to sweep some things under the carpet right? Words not spoken or feelings not expressed can't come back to hurt us (on this subject), we can't keep all our friends happy being straight up a 100% as some peeps believe in the school of thought that says ‘’ if you have nothing nice to say, keep quiet’’ but then again I'm part of those that believe our real friends can't stay angry at us all day. At the end of the day we can't please everyone, we're not jollof rice (lol). Lets just try our best, the truth can set you free if you DO THE RIGHT THING.

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