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Love With Blood?

Dear OTTH readers, I hope we're good because I'm very fine. You know me and the things that bother me, lol. The other day, I was discussing with Anuli (CEO, Iluna photography)  about how I think it's abnormal to have sexual relations with any member of ones family and she made a point by saying that it's a norm in some places #onemansmeat...you know the drill but that it doesn't make it right.
I understand that people crush on their cousins and all and I also understand that my culture might be a taboo someplace else but haba! Why would you have sexual relations with your family member? I used to think it was always sexual abuse when things like that happen but I've found out that people actually do it with pride and talk about it without shame. I remember someone telling me how he makes out with his cousin and he loves her so much and I'm like gfhdsshgk?

Over the years, I've heard and I still hear of different cases of incest and it was beginning to sound cliché until one day earlier in the year I decided to surf the internet regarding cases of incest and I saw something that shocked me, a father and his son being together sexually!. I know about homosexuality and all which exists in countries where it's not even legalised including our very own Nigeria but being gay with your son? That's just the height of 'yucky' for me.
The one that made me finally decide to write this was the story I read about a Kenyan who sleeps with her father. According to her, she was the one who actually approached her father and that's how they started and her mum doesn't know about it. So the man sleeps with his daughter and wife. Funniest part is that his daughter prefers him to her boyfriend sexually. Yes, she was very specific, nothing to be ashamed of and they've been at it for four years so it's no bigdeal right?

Endtime, Endtime, Endtime is usually what backs up these kind of issues yea? I know crazy stuff happen when the end is near but this is just out of my imagination or is it that we're also awed at certain happenings but we have no explanation to them so we just use the endtime as an excuse because it's easier that way than analyzing the whole issue. These are just my opinions though and I'm open to other opinions so do not hesitate to share your opinion on this, do you think it's normal to engage in sexual relations with family members or do you agree with me that the family should be excluded when it comes to sexual relations?


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Unknown said…
No it's very abnormal to engage in anything sexual with relations. Even homosexuality is wrong, some people will say it's not a big deal and its still love and after all God is love. I was wondering about that until I stumbled on this bible passage and it just blew me away. It was like God cleared my doubt lol "For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. (‭2 Timothy‬ ‭4‬:‭3‬ NIV)
So it's all wrong. Be it sexual relations with blood or with same sex
12:15 pm, November 19, 2015
XPANCIATED EMMY said…
ITS AL BOUT PERCEPTION, IDEOLOGY, INFLUENCE, UPBRINGING AND MIND FLOW. ITS BCOS U ARE AWARE AND KNOW UR FAMILY MEMBER. IMAGINE UR GUY TURNS OUT TO B UR UNKNOWN BRODA, AFTA DOIN D DEED, AT DAT POINT OF KNOWING, U FIL BAD BUT B4 DEN, FUN. SO TO ME, IT AL BOILS DOWN TO PERCEPTION. NYC ONE UP DIA. KIP D BLOOD FLOWING
5:08 pm, November 19, 2015
Unknown said…
There is nothing about it that can be considered even slightly normal. The END IS NEAR!
5:44 pm, November 19, 2015
Odusola Aanuoluwapo said…
I understand the case of people who were never aware that the person was their relation and then stopped everything on realising but when you engage in sexual relations with your family member knowing fully well that the person is your family member, what do we call that?
9:44 pm, November 19, 2015
Unknown said…
There is nothing about it that can be considered even slightly normal. The END IS NEAR!
10:45 pm, November 19, 2015
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