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Why Did The Break-Up Hurt?

Dear OTTH readers, how are we? I'm sure some of us are not so psyched since the weekend is over but guess who's excited? Meeeee and it's because I'm off work today. Few days ago, I was thinking about relationships and how they start and end, what people expect to gain in it which they do or don't eventually which in turn makes or breaks the relationship. You'll hear some stories sometimes and it would amaze you to know that what hurts most people after the break-up isn't the fact that the love of their life was gone. Today we're going to be talking about why you were pained after the break up.

We all have expectations when going into a relationship and sometimes our partners are unable to meet up with the expectation and as sharp guys and ladies, we end it because what's the point? The truth is that when it ends, one person is more pained than the other and in some cases, only one person is usually pained. Now, imagine that the pained person is you, why were you pained? Is it because she didn't sleep with you after all your investment on her? A man I know personally told me his story about how he used to visit his first love and they'll escort each other to and fro everywhere, how he used all his money to buy her gifts and all but they had to separate due to university admission, bla bla, you know how it is but what pained him about the break up was that he didn't sleep with her. I've heard other stories like this from guys and that's why most guys want to be sure that the girl will sleep with them before they can buy as little as a bottle of coke for her.

I'm not here to paint the guys black because it applies to both sexes. I've heard of stories about ladies dating guys for connection purposes and when they act all lovey dovey for a while and the connection they need isn't forth coming, they end it because what's the point? Some ladies date guys because the guy is cute so they can show him off but the moment a cuter dude is around, the one they're with suddenly becomes unattractive then they bring up something that leads to the end of the relationship because what's the point?
For some ladies, dating the boss is paramount, so when the boss has another boss, it's on to the next one therefore dumping the other boss because what's the point? For some, it's about the money and when the guy suddenly becomes broke, he's dead automatically so they end it because what's the point? Some guys also date girls for money and when she does goes broke, they end it because what's the point? Some date because she's beautiful then all of us a sudden, she has pimples all over and he doesn't even know if it's as a result of her period but because to him, she's no longer as fine, he brings up something to end it because what's the point?
I could go on and on but if you're in a relationship for the benefits, then you should make it clear from the beginning and if you cannot, look for someone who has what you want so you can be with your type because you don't know whose heart you're breaking just because someone isn't meeting your expectations. Profile your potential partner to make it easier to know if the person has what you want. Don't break hearts for your own selfish interest. Define your relationship with whoever you're in it with to avoid being misled. The way you feel after a break-up only shows what you were in for during the relationship. My point, find your type to avoid breaking hearts or been heartbroken because it's either one of the two, there's no in-between.


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