"I and my spouse must sleep in separate bedrooms" were the words of Tony, my colleague in the year 2012 during my internship somewhere in Lagos. I asked why, he said he needed space abi privacy but the question is "privacy for what?" and besides he didn't really like someone's skin touching him so he'd only let her sleep in his room when he needs her. He'd need her to make love I guess and her skin would have to touch his yea?
Pardon my manners, good morning or afternoon or evening, depending on when you're reading this. I don't know how I remembered this incident sha but somehow it crossed my mind and I said, oya let's write before we forget it. So I was saying...
Hearing it made me realize that people are very different in their thoughts. I grew up in a home where my parents slept abi still sleep in separate rooms. It bothers me because I need more room for my stuff instead of having to share with someone. Initially they shared a room together but then they couldn't agree on a lot of things hence the split into different rooms. I quite understand them though but I think it could have been managed better or maybe I'm saying this because I saw it happen.
What bothers me is when an unmarried person who already has a very serious relationship most likely leading to the altar would not want to share a room with his spouse, his wife, the love of his life etc. I'm sure Tony isn't the only one in the world who thinks this way and if you're reading this now and think the same way with Tony, I'd like to know why.
I can't imagine myself sleeping alone when my husband is around because I love cuddling to start with, my teddy knows this, it's even here right now though it's not reading this sha because it's facing me. The fact that I'm agreeing to marry you or we decided to get married only means we're stuck with each other. If we have to sleep apart, it only means I won't be laying on your chest, you'd have to sleep on one side of the bed otherwise I'm sleeping on you. Another reason we'd sleep apart is if one of us travels but baby, no one is going nowhere if we're both in the house. I want your skin to touch mine as much as possible even if we're fighting.
I know some people like privacy to the extreme. If you want to read or something, we can have a study in the house where you can do that but if you must sleep, it must be my side. I'm possessive though, if I love you that is. If you're on my side, say hjfghf, if you're on tony's side, say Ibkhjg with some explanation though because I'm very curious. The way Tony said it ehn, I'm very sure that if he and his wife sleeps in the same room, it'll be because the house is a one-room apartment otherwise his dream will come true, that's if it hasn't because I've not heard from him in a while.
I really want to know how you feel, would you share a room with your spouse or you'll need to sleep on your own? Don't forget that I love you for reading and I love you even more for commenting. If you have trouble commenting, kindly send your comments to odusolar@gmail.com and your efforts would be appreciated.
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Pardon my manners, good morning or afternoon or evening, depending on when you're reading this. I don't know how I remembered this incident sha but somehow it crossed my mind and I said, oya let's write before we forget it. So I was saying...
Hearing it made me realize that people are very different in their thoughts. I grew up in a home where my parents slept abi still sleep in separate rooms. It bothers me because I need more room for my stuff instead of having to share with someone. Initially they shared a room together but then they couldn't agree on a lot of things hence the split into different rooms. I quite understand them though but I think it could have been managed better or maybe I'm saying this because I saw it happen.
I can't imagine myself sleeping alone when my husband is around because I love cuddling to start with, my teddy knows this, it's even here right now though it's not reading this sha because it's facing me. The fact that I'm agreeing to marry you or we decided to get married only means we're stuck with each other. If we have to sleep apart, it only means I won't be laying on your chest, you'd have to sleep on one side of the bed otherwise I'm sleeping on you. Another reason we'd sleep apart is if one of us travels but baby, no one is going nowhere if we're both in the house. I want your skin to touch mine as much as possible even if we're fighting.
I know some people like privacy to the extreme. If you want to read or something, we can have a study in the house where you can do that but if you must sleep, it must be my side. I'm possessive though, if I love you that is. If you're on my side, say hjfghf, if you're on tony's side, say Ibkhjg with some explanation though because I'm very curious. The way Tony said it ehn, I'm very sure that if he and his wife sleeps in the same room, it'll be because the house is a one-room apartment otherwise his dream will come true, that's if it hasn't because I've not heard from him in a while.
I really want to know how you feel, would you share a room with your spouse or you'll need to sleep on your own? Don't forget that I love you for reading and I love you even more for commenting. If you have trouble commenting, kindly send your comments to odusolar@gmail.com and your efforts would be appreciated.
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Been married for the past six months and I enjoy each night I have to sleep on my Hubby's chest, coupled with other things that goes with it after bedtime prayer of course, viz: gisting, chatting the chuckles and giggling, "d oda one"...etc. Don't get jealous, Lol.
Whenever he has to travel due to the nature of his work, I get so sad. So again and again, I'll sleep on the same bed in same room, even if am doing family planning (as some couple excuse themselves with it)!
Keep up the writes Anu.