The other day I wrote about competition not been a way you should live your life but as much as I believe you shouldn't compete with anyone, I believe you owe it yourself to always try to be on top of your game. Being on top of your game only means that you should always be at your best because the truth is that, if you don't do it for you, no one would do it for you. You just have to do it for you. If you take a look back at the people you've known, where they were and where they are right now, you would agree with me that in most cases, there has been an improvement, no matter how little. While taking a look back earlier, I'm sure you would remember one or two persons that never made any effort to upgrade, and now they're still not making any effort to. Those are the kinds of people you don't want around you. The people who are needy on purpose.
It's a different case if the circumstances surrounding you do not give room for you to stand alone or to be independent but then, when you get the opportunity to, you should take advantage of it. Make conscious efforts to be better than your present state. If you are already better but you feel you're being smart so you keep being needy, sooner or later, people would begin to avoid you. Your phone calls would be missed, your presence would be avoided as much as possible even if you had a different reason for calling or visiting. That's because you're already known for being needy. Its time to be needed. Nobody likes a needy person, even needy people do not like needy people. As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing like being able to handle your "own". Yes, you might have people ready to do everything for you but how sweet would it be if you could do everything for yourself by yourself, very sweet yeah? I know it's not as easy as I'm making it sound but it's a gradual process, do some yourself, get some from people then it'll eventually get to the point where you won't need people to do things for you because you're requesting for them.
Of course there'd be times you just need to ask but it shouldn't be an habit, that's when you become a needy person. It doesn't mean you should have it all or do what others are doing, get better, improve, upgrade but only at your own pace. However slow you move, just make sure there's a movement, a forward movement at that. Nobody makes in life by just waiting on other people. The people you're waiting on already have plans, budget. Etc. So it's not even convenient for them to squeeze you in their plans hence you have a lot of un-executed plans due to over-dependence. People would rather help someone who has already half-helped him or herself than someone who has done nothing. You just have to upgrade, however you know how to, using any method that works for you, positive means only though. You owe yourself that, I owe myself that, we owe ourselves that and tell me why the world won't be a better place with all those things in place. It definitely will be a better place for everyone. Let's launch operation upgrade from now on no matter the comfort level we are on.
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It's a different case if the circumstances surrounding you do not give room for you to stand alone or to be independent but then, when you get the opportunity to, you should take advantage of it. Make conscious efforts to be better than your present state. If you are already better but you feel you're being smart so you keep being needy, sooner or later, people would begin to avoid you. Your phone calls would be missed, your presence would be avoided as much as possible even if you had a different reason for calling or visiting. That's because you're already known for being needy. Its time to be needed. Nobody likes a needy person, even needy people do not like needy people. As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing like being able to handle your "own". Yes, you might have people ready to do everything for you but how sweet would it be if you could do everything for yourself by yourself, very sweet yeah? I know it's not as easy as I'm making it sound but it's a gradual process, do some yourself, get some from people then it'll eventually get to the point where you won't need people to do things for you because you're requesting for them.
Facebook - Odusola Aanuoluwapo
Twitter - @odusolar
BBM - 2BC07AB1
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