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Distractions

Distractions are distractions when you let them be distractions. I’ve been meaning to write about this for a long time but I’ve been busy with other things, not that I’ve been distracted by other things. I felt this should be written about when I found myself in the midst of other young people discussing the subject. A lot of people talked about mobile phones being a distraction, social networks been a distraction, girls/boys being a distraction hence restraining people from doing valuable things with their time. So I was wondering, does it mean we should stop using smartphones? Internet? Or stop talking to members of the opposite sex to avoid being distracted? Errrrrrrrr I think not.

These things we refer to as distractions can turn the world around when harnessed positively. We need people in our lives because like they say, no man is an island and no one has truly achieved anything good or bad without having the support of others hence our relationship with other people should add value to our lives rather than debar us from doing important things with our time. How we relate with other people, how much time we dedicate to other people is entirely our responsibility hence no one should be blamed for being a distraction.

We all know that the internet has been a great source of information, inter-connectivity and communication in the past, presently and will continue to be in future as everything is getting more advanced. Yes the internet has brought about a lot of tragedies due to negative use but it has also brought about a lot of good as well. You can only read this because of the internet. The internet has helped make our research easy regardless of the subject being researched in every stage of our lives. Social networks through the internet has given us the opportunity to socialise with people from all over the world without having to go there ourselves. The advantages of the internet cannot be over-emphasised though not without its own disadvantages.

Our mobile phones (and smart devices) were created to enhance communication, keep in touch with the rest of the world and a million other things we use it for today. A lot of us get addicted to our mobile phones as a result of its many features and benefits, so? Whose fault? Yes, these things have been created for a purpose and a lot of people who find it hard to do other things because of their devices have found diverse ways to earn from them which is a good thing and some of us just enjoy them for the fun of it. Either ways, we're all utilising it and how we go about doing that is totally our responsibility.

There are lot of things that could distract us if proper care isn't taken. Two things we need to do - prioritise and take responsibility. When we do not prioritise, we take everything as it comes, we do things based on what/who comes first and end up doings that should be done first last and last first which also leads to us giving our attention to things that do not require it. When we prioritise, it'll be easier for us to do things in their order of importance. Taking responsibility is key. Everything we do consciously or unconsciously is entirely our responsibility. We choose to do what we do, talk to who we want to, invest on what we want, etc and we do these things sometimes without even realising that we chose them. The earlier we realise that the effect (either positive or negative) of any of our actions is entirely our responsibility, the better for us. Even decisions that others make for us is only possible because we allowed them to, hence, our responsibility too. So instead of pushing blames when things don't go as planned, let's just look at where it went wrong, learn our lessons and move on.

Let's make judicious use of our technologies, smart devices, time, money, relationships, etc in ways that we can deal with to avoid results we didn't envisage and also learn to do the right at the right time by prioritising. What is to one's advantage might be to another's disadvantage therefore find what is to your own advantage and stick with it.



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