Okay,
let me gist you about my visit to the salon #throwbackstory if you’re not too
busy to read. It was some days ago, I called my hairdresser and she was far
from her salon, I couldn’t wait for her as it could take hours before she got
back and I didn’t plan to go anywhere the next day, I just wanted to be home
all day, eating and sleeping. I told my stylist that I couldn’t wait so I
decided to find somewhere else. I found somewhere not too far from hers so I
didn’t have to walk much. I got there and saw like seven females, most of them
were apprentices. The salon is not a boring place when there are a lot of
females because they will not stop talking about something and even if you
don’t join in, you would enjoy the discussion anyway.
They
went from topic to topic, some funny, some were not funny, I concentrated on my
scrabble game anyway. I laughed when necessary too. The real gossip started not
so long after. I refer to it as the real gossip because they were talking
generally before but as soon as one person had to leave to get something or
attend to something else and that was when the gossip started, ghen ghen!
They
talked about how one was lazy which wasn’t right because she was the most
junior as seniority is based on who came first, bla bla, how she barely chats
with everyone else like what was she feeling like? Someone tried defending her
saying that the girl had actually admitted the fact that she hardly talks to
people, even when she’s home. Another girl told them to stop comparing
themselves to someone that was in ‘school’ as she was only there with them for
her internship program not as a worker or an apprentice.
“Ehn,
na only she don go school before, so since she don go school now, she be god
for your eyes” girl A says, “Yes, she be god!” girl B affirmed in a loud voice,
“na your god she be na, no be my own” girl A says. Others looked on, no comment.
“Cynthia (not real name), I’ve noticed that thing about you, when you see
anyone that’s in school, you’ll be seeing them as god” girl A said to girl B.
“She no be our mate, abi she be our mate?” girl B said to the rest of the
girls, no response still. “If she dey here, I no go fit talk am, na because she
no dey here I dey talk am so she no be our mate at all, forget say we dey here
dey learn work” They probably saw no big deal in it and girl A and B were the
most senior so they (the other girls) didn’t really say much to contribute as
those ones were like mini-bosses or just apprentices as the case was.
Two
things I got from the discussion; do not look down on yourself because if you
do, no one will look up to you. Why would someone see another person as a god
because she’s in the university and it seems she has achieved or is on her way
to achieving more than they have? It’s okay to aspire to be something but
because someone is already the something you aspire to be doesn’t mean you
should condone their bad behavior or let them treat you as they wish. If you
don’t like something and you can’t tolerate it, speak up, except if it will
make you lose your job, life or source of income, then I’d say, be patient. My
point, say how you feel especially when you know you have nothing to lose and
if you have something to lose and you feel it’s worth losing, why not? If you
have to refrain from saying how you feel, let it be for a more important reason
other than seeing the person as a ‘god’. Even our God in heaven, we tell him
how we feel however it comes out of our mouth, how much more your fellow human.
I rest my case here.
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