How To Ask A Girl Out

A lot of guys tend to get confused as to how they can approach a lady because of the complexity of the feminine gender. They get bothered about if they’re rich, intelligent, good-looking and fashionable enough to have her attention. You need to have one thing at the back of your mind when you decide to take the bold step and the thing is, there is always someone out of there for everyone so even if she doesn’t say yes, it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean you don’t have what it takes. You just won’t date everyone you’re attracted to and it’s same for her so you can take her refusal logically rather than emotionally.

It’s pretty simple actually and you’ll see how from the steps you’ll see below;

#1 Approach her like you would a fellow guy, create this perception in your mind's eye that she is a guy like you, it makes you less nervous. Apply less pressure, it’s not a do or die affair, be real, be natural, be you, and don't try to impress.

#2 Be a bit casual, it creates this impression you have a life of yours already. It is never that serious and if she cares enough, you both can share some fantasies.

#3 Be honest with your intentions and don't beat around the bush. No matter what you say, your actions will speak louder than words.

#4 Don’t take too long to ask her out. Most guys get so friendly with the intention that they’re waiting for the perfect moment but are oblivious to the fact that a lot could happen while they wait, she might just fall in love with someone else when she observes that you’re not saying anything about being with her.

#5 Have a little chat about anything and see her areas of interest. Make sure your conversations are intelligent ones as it’s going to draw her to you enough to want to hear you talk about anything at all.

#6 Be sensitive to her attitude and see if she likes your conversation. Striking a conversation just after she lost someone or something dear to her isn’t the smartest move, you have to be smart enough to know what goes with her mood.

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