The Rant - Don't Lead Them On

I don't understand people who can't be straightforward when dealing with other people's feelings. Don't lead them on. I mean, it's okay to not be a straightforward person as long as someone else's life is not at stake. I watched '35 and counting' for the second time some days ago and I felt sadder than the first time I watched it even amidst the comedy part of it. It just felt so real how some people tell you they're not ready for some things like marriage or kids and after going back and forth, the union/relationship ends only for them to have the same thing they claimed they weren't ready for with another person. This only means one thing; they weren't ready for it with YOU.

It saddens my heart when I read about people who date their partner for three years and more leaving them for someone they met two months before their relationship ends saying they didn't love their partner. Biko when did the love end? If the love ended like six months into the relationship, why didn't you say so then, or whatever you were getting from the relationship couldn't let you say the truth because you knew the benefits would stop? It's so not nice.

Before wasting someone's time for selfish reasons, think about if you'd like the same thing to be done to you. Telling someone you're no longer on the same page love-ically might hurt but the earlier you say it, the better for the both of you. The person will get over it sooner or later and find someone else because it wouldn't have gotten too deep but dragging the relationship for years making the other person believe they've found "the one" isn't a smart move.

To those who tell the lie of not being ready for kids or marriage when deep down, you know you're ready for it but just not with your partner, that's just tie-ing the person down when there's nothing for them to gain. Don't make people believe they're the one you want when you know that's not right. You don't want marriage with someone? What are you still there for when the person is clearly being serious? The truth here can set you free. Apply wisdom though.

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