Dealing With Rejection

Everyone has to face some sort of rejection at some point in their lives. It might be from that guy or girl you like who doesn’t like you the same way or from that job interview you thought you nailed but later figured out you didn’t or from your prayers which seem unanswered, the list is endless really so no need going into details. As a person who has faced rejection myself in a lot of ways, there are some steps I can recommend for you to get over that feeling of rejection. They are;

Realize that it’s normal;

If you got everything you want in life the first time you tried to get it, the world will be no fun. Our struggles make it all worth it; it makes us stronger and even becomes stories for us to tell to encourage others with. It’s perfectly normal for you to get a rainy day when you’d rather have a sunny day. Once you realize that it’s not an abnormal thing, you’re halfway there.

You are not alone;

It might seem like you’re the only one experiencing what you are but you shouldn’t feel this way because there are millions of people in the world feeling the same way or even worse so man/woman up and think up new approaches to achieving what you want.

Talk to someone;

A problem shared is half solved might probably sound cliché but when shared with the right person, a problem is half solved. Talk to someone you trust, you might not need their advice but letting it out is good for your soul and a good listening ear always comes in handy.

Make lemonade from your lemons;

Rather than feel rejected, think up other ways or new approaches to getting what you want or finding other options in case one doesn’t work out. This way, you will always have a back-up plan in case one doesn’t work out.

Be positive;

Being positive might be very hard in times like this but you really need to try to be. It will reduce the effect of the feeling of rejection whenever it comes and eventually get you out of it.

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