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Taking Sides The Proper Way

Everyone is prone to take sides at some point in their lives depending on the situation that warrants it. Usually, they take sides based on how long they’ve known the person, who the person is to them (family, bestfriend, etc) and what they stand to gain from the person (money, favour, connection, etc). As a result of these factors, reasoning logically might be quite difficult. Taking your bestfriend’s word over your spouse’s, your child’s word over that of your house help or an outsider’s word over your parent’s whom you’ve known all your life. If you don’t have plans to make sentimental gains from any side you eventually take, you should consider doing the following things before choosing a side;

Stop being sentimental, just this once
Taking the wrong side can bring about serious problems even in future so you don’t want to take the wrong side, not without a purpose at least. If you might just stop considering how much the person means to you or how long you’ve known the person, you just might be able to look at things objectively.

Don’t believe one side of the story
One side of the story isn’t even half the story. You’ll find this out after you hear from the other party so before you decide to believe one side, listen to every part of it first.

Don’t believe everything you hear
You might think you’ve heard all the versions of the story but you need to realize that anyone can twist a story to make it favour them so hearing isn’t enough to just believe, 
have some doubts.
Understand that people change
Maybe the story doesn’t fit into the description of the person you thought you really knew, that’s not enough reason to dismiss it and tag it a lie. People change every now and then and for different reasons too. Again, you need to be objective.

Be very observant
This is the time to display your detective skills, let every moment be a form of investigation. Read body languages of both parties, snoop around a little if you can. Seeing is truly believing.

Gather your facts
As you listen and observe, your facts will begin to add up, some will make sense and some won’t but keep gathering them anyway until you’re sure of who’s wrong and who’s right.
 
Know how to handle the truth
So the person didn’t turn out to be who you thought or you realize the stranger was right after all and it all seems awkward. Toughen up and handle it. Don’t make excuses for anyone otherwise your judgment might be clouded.

Determine what to do with the truth
After finding out what the truth is by any other means except an actual confession, figure out what you want to do with it. Not everything is worth acting upon and not everything deserves to be ignored either. Think logically about what you want to derive from any action you choose and what’s at stake. You can choose a side now, fully aware of the truth.

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