I don’t
know if this is a rant but this is something I take very personal. I might be a
feminist but I like to state things the way they are regardless of whose side
I’m supposed to be on. So this guy posted on facebook about how females these
days are just about slaying here and there and they’d only date a guy for money
because they assume that a relationship is a job opportunity. He ended his post
by advising guys to catch them young instead. By them, I mean girls. He advised
them to go for secondary school girls who are loyal and naïve because they will
make better partners. He said other things too but those are the statements I
chose to center this article on.
I’d like
to declare that I don’t blame the guy in any way. What do you expect when some
females totally depend on a guy for everything? Some girls even get paid
salaries just for dating someone so his outburst is totally understandable.
What I don’t agree with is the generalization. Some, maybe majority of females
are all about a guy’s money and not wanting to spend on a man in return, yes
but it doesn’t make us all the same. It’s the same way guys feel when ladies
say that all men are the same. Some of you believe you’re different because you
think you are or you’ve seen other men who are. I don’t get why people expect a
guy to do everything for them. You look good as a female and everyone assumes
that it’s a guy that’s responsible for that. The belief that a guy has to do
something financial for a girl is very funny (because I can't think of another word). Every girl wants a guy to spoil
her or spend on her somehow but it’s not a responsibility, its personal. It
shouldn’t be one sided too. A female should be able to do same for a guy she
cares about, if it’s real on both sides that is.
The part
where he said men should catch them young is another part I totally disagree
with. No, I’m not saying you shouldn’t catch them young, catch them old if you
like, whatever works. My point is that the young aren’t so young anymore. I
mean, let’s face it. Have you seen the secondary school girls of this
generation? I don’t think so. I graduated from secondary school in 2009 at the
age of 15. By the time I was 13, I already knew a lot about sex and
relationships though I wasn’t practicing. I read a lot so I learnt by studying.
At that same age, I had girls in my class or my age range in other schools who
were already sexually active and some had even committed several abortions or
had children out of wedlock.
Yes,
majority are still innocent or appear so but you just can’t tell. At the age of
15, I had guys who were in universities already asking me out. There were students in my
school who had boyfriends who were undergraduates so it was kind of a big deal
for them. And that was just 2009. This is 2017, eight years later. We now have
twitter, instagram, whatsapp, facebook, snapchat, 2go, two, badoo, wechat,
palmchat, eskimi and many other social networking platforms that weren’t as
used then as now, some weren’t even in existence then.
So before
you conclude that catching them young is the solution to getting a decent girl,
you might need to think again. As hard as it may seem, there are still a lot of
decent girls in the world if you look well enough. That fresh SSCE holder will
still go into the university (except there are no funds available) where
everything is happening, things you can imagine and things you can’t. Maybe you
can start by being the kind of person you’d like to meet and see if you won’t
attract your kind. Leave that secondary school leaver alone to plan her life
because she’s naïve and needs to focus on getting a degree at least not trying
to multi-task her life.
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