The Male Bestie Situation

So I heard there are a lot of things wrong with having a male best friend, as a female. If the girl is single, their friendship might go beyond platonic and end up being together or their friendship might go sour as a result. Girls (some, not all) like to have more male friends than females because they think its less dramatic and has more quality.

The last part though...

Some boyfriends don't even complain out loud but I heard they don't like it (low-key).

Some of the reasons I learnt was that
- She might start to make comparisons between her best friend and boo
- She might be very attracted to the best friend as he will end up being the relationship adviser et al
- She will most likely be with the person in vulnerable times for instance, when she has a fight with boo

Is this true guys?

Opinions of some guys include;
- She can have male friends but not a best friend
- She's not allowed to have a male best friend but he can have a female best friend because he doesn't trust the other guy
- Her bae should be her best friend not some guy
- She might end up leaving boo for the best friend
- She can become emotionally attached to the best friend

I know rightttt

Personally, I think some of the reasons are correct because as soon as I got out a relationship some years ago, the next person I dated was my best friend because it’s easier to be with someone who knows you to a reasonable extent and loves you anyway that start over with someone new (not enough reason I know #justsayingthough).

So in the end, the best friends are always there regardless of what you go through but there should always be boundaries when its someone of the opposite sex. I also think it is not okay to stop being close to people just because you're in a relationship. Your partner should learn not to feel threatened by your friendships but you should listen should he feel something isn't quite right with your friendship with some guy.

Those are my opinions but what do I kuku know, tell me what you feel guys anddddd girls (drags stool).

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