This year is the year, this year I’ll do this and do that, this year I won’t do this and do that anymore…bla, bla and bla. We all started this year with expectations, from others and from ourselves. We made plans. When the year started, to some, it was looking like ‘the year’ while to some it seemed like the year was still ‘booting’. Some people’s ‘year’ was still booting by April and their year finally started in august but somehow, they managed to achieve more than the person whose year started right on time. Some achieved not so much but are more fulfilled than those who achieved much more. Achievement means different things to different people I’ve come to find out.
For me, this year has been very eventful. With numerous ups and downs, happy and sad moments, I’m mainly grateful for life for without life, I wouldn’t have been able to witness all I have. My main goal this year was to learn how to cook jollof rice and I think I’m almost there, you can come and find out. The purpose of this article is to share with you the lessons I’ve learned this year.
You’re mostly on your own
No one can be there for you like you can so the least you can do is chin up and walk through your difficulties BY YOURSELF. Expecting others to take responsibility for your problems or be there when you need them will be shooting yourself in the leg. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE has their own issues they deal with on a daily basis so you can’t afford to transfer your problems to them. Its okay to need help once in a while but don’t be the person who always need help.
Good friends worth more than gold
If you have any person you can talk to about anything, someone you can be yourself with, someone who will scold you when you’re wrong and praise you when you’re right, you have hit a jackpot. I have few of them and I thank God for them everyday. Good friends are rare so if you have anyone you consider a ‘real’ friend, you are very lucky.
No one can know God on your behalf
Spirituality is a very personal thing. While it is important to lean on the shoulders of men of God for the wisdom and knowledge they have, it is also important to know that no one can know God for you like you. No one can pray for you like you, why? Because they already have their own prayer points and even if you’re one of their prayer points, they probably won’t pray for you everyday for the rest of their lives.
Its okay to have fun
You don’t have to be uptight all the time. Work work work even more than Riri. Dress down, go out, have fun, meet people, watch movies, go shopping, travel, try new dishes, read new books, play new games etc. There are too many things you can do to have fun. I’m a very indoor person, I almost don’t like being around people at all but once in a while, I do one of these things because I know that I only have one life.
Help people
I recently realized that you know need money to help people. Everyone needs money but not everyone has money problems. You can help people with your kind words, words of encouragement and you can also do things for them that will ease their stress. If you have money, by all means please do something kind to one or two people from time to time. I believe that you are where you are for a reason. You might not be where you want to be but I’m pretty sure that certain people look up to you. I’m not asking you to be father Christmas. Just be kind, that's all. A smile, words, kind acts that won’t cost you so much will be appreciated by whoever truly needs it and you will even be glad.
Show more gratitude
Everyday I wake up, I’m grateful to God for life because its another opportunity for me to be a better person, to act differently and also right my wrongs. Even if you’ve lost everything, the fact that you have life is enough to show gratitude because when there is life, there is hope. There are people who want to be in your shoes no matter how ‘low’ you think you are so its another reason to be thankful. If you have a roof over head, food to eat and at least small money to spend, be thankful. When people die, be thankful because it could have been you but God had said ‘not today’.
What have you learnt this year? Please share too as I also want to learn from you.
Twitter >> @odusolar
Facebook >> Aanuoluwapo Odusola
Instagram >> @aanusol
For me, this year has been very eventful. With numerous ups and downs, happy and sad moments, I’m mainly grateful for life for without life, I wouldn’t have been able to witness all I have. My main goal this year was to learn how to cook jollof rice and I think I’m almost there, you can come and find out. The purpose of this article is to share with you the lessons I’ve learned this year.
You’re mostly on your own
No one can be there for you like you can so the least you can do is chin up and walk through your difficulties BY YOURSELF. Expecting others to take responsibility for your problems or be there when you need them will be shooting yourself in the leg. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE has their own issues they deal with on a daily basis so you can’t afford to transfer your problems to them. Its okay to need help once in a while but don’t be the person who always need help.
Good friends worth more than gold
If you have any person you can talk to about anything, someone you can be yourself with, someone who will scold you when you’re wrong and praise you when you’re right, you have hit a jackpot. I have few of them and I thank God for them everyday. Good friends are rare so if you have anyone you consider a ‘real’ friend, you are very lucky.
No one can know God on your behalf
Spirituality is a very personal thing. While it is important to lean on the shoulders of men of God for the wisdom and knowledge they have, it is also important to know that no one can know God for you like you. No one can pray for you like you, why? Because they already have their own prayer points and even if you’re one of their prayer points, they probably won’t pray for you everyday for the rest of their lives.
Its okay to have fun
You don’t have to be uptight all the time. Work work work even more than Riri. Dress down, go out, have fun, meet people, watch movies, go shopping, travel, try new dishes, read new books, play new games etc. There are too many things you can do to have fun. I’m a very indoor person, I almost don’t like being around people at all but once in a while, I do one of these things because I know that I only have one life.
Help people
I recently realized that you know need money to help people. Everyone needs money but not everyone has money problems. You can help people with your kind words, words of encouragement and you can also do things for them that will ease their stress. If you have money, by all means please do something kind to one or two people from time to time. I believe that you are where you are for a reason. You might not be where you want to be but I’m pretty sure that certain people look up to you. I’m not asking you to be father Christmas. Just be kind, that's all. A smile, words, kind acts that won’t cost you so much will be appreciated by whoever truly needs it and you will even be glad.
Show more gratitude
Everyday I wake up, I’m grateful to God for life because its another opportunity for me to be a better person, to act differently and also right my wrongs. Even if you’ve lost everything, the fact that you have life is enough to show gratitude because when there is life, there is hope. There are people who want to be in your shoes no matter how ‘low’ you think you are so its another reason to be thankful. If you have a roof over head, food to eat and at least small money to spend, be thankful. When people die, be thankful because it could have been you but God had said ‘not today’.
What have you learnt this year? Please share too as I also want to learn from you.
Twitter >> @odusolar
Facebook >> Aanuoluwapo Odusola
Instagram >> @aanusol
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